tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-56295923848568214732024-03-07T22:21:53.921-08:00Mad World of MagsLanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-33755007028003395742007-08-27T17:21:00.000-07:002007-08-27T17:30:44.825-07:00This is how I'm messed up about men.How I am messed up about men....where could I begin. I really didn't mean to make that rhyme, but honestly, I could go on forever about how I am messed up about men. It's unreal. I am intelligent enough to know that I continuously go down this path of self destructive choices that lead me to once again reject every man I've ever known only to wish I could meet "the man" that is "the one." Does he exist? Who knows. Basically, since I am not an avid blogger, I know that I don't have any readers, at least not any regular ones, so I could potentially use this site as my own personal dating diary, or drama diary, or lack thereof. Names will be changed or omitted on the one rare opportunity that someone I know would log on. <br />So, I live in a world where I am always in a constant battle with my own mind. I perpetuate these cycles that I know are self-defeating, yet I don't stop them. Now, that's not to say that I am crazy, because I don't think that I am that different from any other woman out there, but I may be a bit more extreme. Or maybe I just think about it more. There is a reason that I majored in the mental health field---I have a lifetime of experience in analyzing problems and contemplating alternative courses of action. I spend all of my time helping others, but can never truly help the one person that needs me the most.Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-66555450548112996822007-08-12T15:51:00.001-07:002007-08-12T15:53:20.753-07:00Guess I'm not so smart after all.<span style="color:#003300;">I don't think I really understand how all the "extra perks" that go along with blogging work. Like Pay Per Post and such. I'm a bit confused. And really, the sad thing is that I am a smart girl. I have a master's degree for crying out loud and I cannot figure this out! Frustrating.</span>Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-460212674666332782007-08-12T15:09:00.001-07:002007-08-12T15:21:33.209-07:00How a child's mind works?So, I got to spend some time with my nephew this weekend and it was so exciting how much he talks to me and about me. It makes me feel really special that this little 2 year old would be so bonded with me. Of course, I'm no mom or dad, now they are top-notch in the <em>special</em> category, but I know that I'm in his top 10, if not his top five. Those are the little things in life that make all the bad stuff we deal with from day to day more bearable. <br />The way his mind works is just amazing and although all people say this about their children (or nieces and nephews), but I really think mine are geniouses. Kyle told his mom, "<span style="color:#000099;">That's Aunt Nanie's car. I tink maybe we ought to wash it.</span>" Yes, I left out the <em>H</em> in <em>think</em> on purpose, because he is so dutchy and it's just cute. But really, what a very unique thing for a 2 year old to say. <br />Of course, I also have two other nephews and I am very excited for the day when they start to talk more. Everything they do is already very cute, but it's so facsinating to try and think of how a child's mind works. While we were shopping, I wandered off by myself and Kyle said, "<span style="color:#000099;">Mommy, where'd aunt Nanie go</span> (which sounds more like doe)?" Heather said, "I don't know, did you lose her?" Kyle replied he didn't lose me, that his mother did and they continue this argumentative-type game back and forth as he does with anything. However, when Kyle spotted me he proudly bosted, "<span style="color:#000099;">There's aunt Nanie! I find her."</span> Precious.Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-35980885004288362862007-08-05T18:15:00.000-07:002007-08-05T18:19:33.500-07:00Permanent residence????So, I have been contemplating the idea of trying to buy a house for some time now, but it seems that something always keeps coming up. Like now, I am saving for a trip to the Bahamas for a wedding. Not even mine. So I keep asking myself, is it really a good idea to be spending all this money on trips and stuff when you want to buy a house? Is this really good investment thinking? But, on the other side, I also know that this is the time when I should be out enjoying life, while I am not tied down to a morgage or children. However, I know that it's a really good market for home buyers right now, that I should jump on it. But then, I think...is my credit going to be good enough? Am I going to be able to afford this? Probably not. Ugh! What's a girl to do? The agony!Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-77130464152731237432007-06-17T20:06:00.001-07:002007-06-17T20:14:14.256-07:00The greatest thing since sliced bread...<span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#cc0000;">So, in this reality show, in-your-face, family forgotten line-up of television shows we have these days, it is finally nice to see something that does not have anything to do with winning a prize or who's gonna have to be voted off/out or eating disgusting mounds of slippery guts. I have found the television show that is entertaining and has substance. It's the next drama that can actually be funny and I'm thinking that so far it is comparable to the first episodes of Grey's Anatomy. The only difference is that this show has been able to entertain me for three solid weeks now without having to have multiple extravagant sex scenes. (Not to mention that I have watched the reruns of the show, which I never do!) I am very impressed!!! And, as someone with many family members or friends currently or previously in the military, I have to say that it has touched on some very significant issues so far. I love this show!!! Just a little free product promotion from me, because I am the person who has never watched Lifetime Television in her life, and now, I'm addicted!</span>Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-10861151479017595682007-05-05T10:46:00.000-07:002007-05-05T11:03:58.840-07:00Who knew?Have you seen the new creation called "The World" off the coast of Dubai??? This is a phenomenon that just amazes me! They have created these islands to look like the world. Man-made islands!!! What??? I would just like to know who was sitting around and one day said....Hmm. I'm bored and I have oodles of money. Let's see if we can create a land mass in an ocean. I mean, it takes volcanoes so much time to form new islands, so let's just speed the process up a bit. Have we gone too far with this? Sure they're nice, but we are talking about completely altering the world as we know it. And, how is it that I have never really heard about this before? Am I living under a rock? What? Wow!Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-53265132946063798802007-03-16T15:40:00.000-07:002007-03-16T15:42:47.523-07:00At my job...<span style="color:#cc0000;">At my job I have ran into many different things. It's amazing the stuff you see and do, but this one kind of tops the cake for me so far. Someone brought a knife in to my office. Why? you may ask.....because it had special memories. I think this beats the time that someone stole our candy bucket. Crazy!</span>Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-58783637982366782442007-03-13T15:44:00.000-07:002007-03-13T15:56:34.682-07:00So....It just came to me.<span style="color:#3333ff;">I just realyzed that both of my blogs have the word "Mad" in them. I wondered what the purpose or meaning behind that was, why did I do that. After I pondered the situation deep and carefully for about 45 seconds and I concluded that I am not actually mad or even upset. That is just how I view my world much of the time. My career involves so much turmoil and things going of course, to put it mildly, so any other minor drama in my life is like fingernails going down the chalkboard---unnerving and annoying. So, I'm thinking that I named both blogs with the word mad in them because that is my world: </span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;"> </span><span style="color:#33cc00;">Mad</span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;"> </span><span style="color:#336666;">Crazy</span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;"> </span><span style="color:#009900;">Unnerving</span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;"> </span><span style="color:#33cc00;">Chaotic</span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;"> </span><span style="color:#003333;">Dangerous to my mental health!</span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;"></span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;">So, I take solace on the days when I come home and nobody else is there yet. I find comfort in working out, but only when I am not exhausted from working 14 hours the day before. I enjoy talking to my family and spending time with my sister's children, even though Kyle laughs so hard he often spits on me. It's ok, because I'm funny, he loves me and I'm a cool aunt, he lets me hold him when he doesn't let anyone else, and that is just a testiment to the fact that my life is just what I felt when I started this. Mad! ;-D</span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;">What do you do for your mental health? This interests me---this was my major for my masters.</span>Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-1873923363724440002007-01-04T16:34:00.000-08:002007-01-04T16:38:09.137-08:00Your view...So, although I already have somewhat of an opinion formed, I would like to know what you all think. Maybe we can start a bit of a debate! Do you think....<br /><br /> Drug addicts are horrible people and should be punished.<br /><br /><br /> Drug addicts are not necessarily bad people but drugs are bad and they just get tangled up in a bad situation.<br /><br />*Also, does your opinion include alcoholics?<br /><br />Let me know!Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-80537937187178962132007-01-01T17:32:00.000-08:002007-01-01T15:35:52.289-08:00New Plan: Help in Motion<span style="color:#660000;">So, this is my new plan. As you may have already read, I accidentally created two blog spots and I was going to give up on this one, but I've decided to put it to good use. As many of my friends and family know I am very much into social issues! I am interested in a variety of issues such as drugs and alcohol abuse/dependency, domestic violence, sexual assualt, rape, mental health, homelessness, the needy, and gender, racial, (etc.) discrimination, to name a few. These are things I am pretty passionate about. Some people are into saving the planet, etc., I am into saving the people. Both good causes, both necessary, just depends on where your passion is. Someday, I think I would like to work as an activist, and maybe that's what beginning of this column is, just one small step towards that goal. I know it will be worthwhile once I get one or two people reading it. For right now, though, this is just for me, which would explain my grammar (I do have a master's degree, I should know better!) These are just my thoughts! </span><br /><span style="color:#660000;"></span><br /><span style="color:#660000;">So, the plan is that every so often I intend to post something about one of these issues and please, feel free to comment (when people start reading this) as that will make for more education, to more people. Today's issue is <span style="color:#000000;">Domestic Violence</span>. This is an issue that has plagued at least one person I am close to and is beginning with someone else. My fear is that I know how this situation is going to end up and I want to make sure that everyone comes out safe. An abusive person, not necessarily a man, is also not necessarily someone who hits. As in the case that I know, there was/is some hitting, but the abuse is more emotional and cruelty. An abusive person is <span style="color:#000099;">conrolling</span>, <span style="color:#6600cc;">disrespectful</span>, <span style="color:#000099;">insulting</span>, <span style="color:#6600cc;">demeaning</span>, and sometimes <strong><span style="color:#000066;">vengeful</span></strong>. The abuser does not even have to raise his or her voice, telling someone that they are worthless or other insults can actually be more hurtful when it is said by someone who is calm. People often do not realize this and think that perhaps it is not abuse because their partner doesn't yell or leave bruises. The point is, that it is abuse and this will <strong><em>never stop</em></strong> unless there is something forcing it too. And, just because it hasn't happened in however many weeks/months/years does not mean that it will never happen again, so don't bank on the fact that they have changed and that it will get better if you do everything right, because the problem is not you or the situation, it's them. It's a cycle, it will continue, regardless of what you do!</span><br /><span style="color:#660000;"></span><br /><span style="color:#660000;">Some important name dropping, you could say. If you find that you or someone you know is in this situation, please contact your local domestic violence program. At the very least, they are someone to lean on, get support, and learn from. If you do not know who to contact, the <strong><span style="color:#000099;">National Domestic Violence Hotline number is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)</span></strong>. If you have access to a computer, the web address is </span><a href="http://www.ndvh.org/index.php"><span style="color:#006600;">http://www.ndvh.org/index.php</span></a><span style="color:#660000;"> however, if the abuser has access to this computer also, there is the possibility that they could see that you have visited this site. Please be careful! In addition, I have attended a domestic violence conference and read a wonderful book by a man named Lundy Bancroft. I found this to be very informative and refer to it often. Through this reading I can pinpoint that the abuser in the relationship in question has characteristcs of a demand man and the water torturer, first and foremost, mixed with definite substance abuse and some traits of Mr. Sensitive. The problem with this man is that he is very charming, responsible, funny, likeable, and established, but I will not let this continue to fool me. Other abusers that I have ran into are the player and Mr. Right. </span><br /><span style="color:#660000;">I hope that noone is offended/angry that I have listed these abusive types, but I do hope to use this blog as a way to communicate with those involved in the situation. I just hope that they know that they are not responsible for this.</span><br /><span style="color:#660000;"></span><br /><span style="color:#660000;">I guess you could say that this is how I am going to express my concern. If you would like to add your stories, concerns, or resources to this site, it would be wonderful! </span><br /><span style="color:#660000;">Don't be the victim again.</span>Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5629592384856821473.post-29616639139610607282006-12-29T18:45:00.000-08:002006-12-29T19:07:30.659-08:00So somehow...<span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#006600;">Yes. Somehow I have created two blogspots. No I'm not that shallow to think that people would want to read two crappy spaces full of random thoughts from a shallow mind. Also, I really don't have that much to say, so I'm guessing one of these will go by the wayside. The problem really was that I had it almost all set up and I went to send it in and it said that there was an error. So, I started all over again and gone it all set up, only to find out that the first one (this one) was not lost.</span>Lanie Magpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16856922798570084548noreply@blogger.com0